Do you have mud for brains? Can’t you do ANYTHING right?!

That’s how I used to speak to myself. It felt so horrible that I would soon drift into images of me becoming perfect at that one problem area: losing 30 kilos, acing my planning, following a 27-step morning routine… That made me feel good right now, in the moment.

I would plan how to get to that perfect goal (in details, mind you). I would perfectly execute for a day, or three, or twenty. And then I would notice how things were not turning out as I’d hoped (reality interfered). So I would start blaming myself again. Plan again. And fail again at becoming perfect.

I was a perfectionist. A perfectionist is not someone who wants to do things perfectly. A perfectionist is someone who thinks they will only be worthy and lovable when they become perfect at that thing they’re currently chasing. Of course, the bar always moves. And the whole exercise makes you miserable, addicted to day-dreams about perfect outcomes, and completely inefficient at actually pursuing goals.

If your new year’s resolution sound like a perfectionist’s dream, book a free consult. It’s precisely my job to help you reach your goals. In a completely imperfect way. That’s totally enjoyable.

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