May 21, 2021

Mélanie Boucarut

The science of wellbeing

It’s not because you understand how happiness works that you automatically feel happy.

It’s not because you understand how gravity works that you know how to ride a bicycle.

Understanding what to do is great; but it’s not the same as doing.

Feeling good is a daily practice.

You need to get on that bike and learn how to keep your balance right here, right now.

Circumstances are just the road, the conditions for the ride. It can be smooth, it can be bumpy. It can rain, it can be downhill, there can be lots of traffic...

You can watch however many tutorials on how to ride a bike, there’s only one way to actually get good at it. It’s to ride the bloody bike.

Same thing with feeling happy. If you’re not trying to figure out how to feel happy / proud / calm / safe right now, in whatever circumstances you’re in… You won’t know how to be happy / proud / calm / safe when circumstance changes.

You’ll be happy 5 minutes then wonder why the good feeling didn’t stay.

Get on that bike. Figure it out right here, right now.

Or in the wonderful words of Arthur Ashe:

Start where you are. Use what you have. Do what you can.

No bad horses, only untrained riders 🐴

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