Are you familiar with the expression “compare & despair”?
You know, it’s the feeling you get when you’re scrolling through Instagram or LinkedIn and seeing your former colleague who leap-frogged to the kind of position that you haven’t been able to secure yet.
Or seeing the pictures from friends who take the kind of vacations that you’d like to offer your family, but can’t afford, or can’t fit in.
Or reading about this girl you know who is training for an ironman race – she’s your age, and she has a demanding job too…
When this happened to me, I would immediately waste a good 30-minute thinking of how others seem to be able to do things that I should be able to do. How I’m wasting my potential. How I’m not aiming high enough for myself. How I’m letting myself dwell in the comfort of mediocrity. Etc.
Except that now, I know exactly what to do to create that feeling of accomplishment for myself.
When you succeed easily, or at least without major difficulty, you don’t learn the major skill that you need to create the massive success you’re dreaming of.
That skill is the art of taking yourself out of the pit of despair / resentment / powerlessness / indecision [insert here shitty emotion of your preference] and back to determination, efficiency, and clarity.
The unpleasant situation you’re in is actually the perfect opportunity for you to learn how to create motivation on demand. Because you suddenly don’t have a choice.
When you wake up feeling spontaneously motivated and determined, there’s no effort nor skill involved in putting yourself to work. It’s easy.
But when you’ve lost your mojo, it sucks SOOOO much that you’re forced to do something about it. You get the opportunity to learn how to create mojo on demand.
I think that’s so much more valuable than simply waking up feeling motivated.
I don’t know about you, but I prefer making a million euros than winning it in the lottery. I want to know I can credit myself with that result.
And I want to know that if I lose it, I can recreate it at will.
No bad horses, only untrained riders 🐴
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